I came to the conclusion that in my case it would need to be a woman, one that I can identify with, one that I have learned from and most importantly, one who has paved the way so that I can lead the lifestyle which I lead.
Defining role model by such terms, I came to the conclusion that my ultimate role model is my mum. How many doors she has unlocked so that I can walk through them freely.
Apart from my mom, I thought of the countless amount of women, the mother’s of the mother’s of my mother, the myriad of courageous women that have paved the way for today’s woman, and who collectively personify my ultimate role model.
Tracing back my lineage of ‘mothers’, I imagine them to be women that campaigned against war and slavery. I imagine them to be women that courageously fought for my right to vote. I picture them as women that decided to emancipate themselves from the mental slavery of not being able to get an education so that I can have access to their knowledge. I believe they are the women who were pro-pill and pro-abortion so that I can enjoy sex on my terms before or without getting married, if that’s my choice. They are the women who gave me choice. They are the women, who have raised children best they can and they are also the women who have loved, not with caution, but with awareness.
These are the women, my birth mother and my (our) collective mothers, that I see as role models, and whose footsteps I hope to follow in.
How about you, do you have an ultimate role model?
Hi! I’m Minna Salami. I’m a writer, blogger, columnist, lecturer and speaker and the founder of the feminist blog, MsAfropolitan, which connects feminism to contemporary culture from an Africa-centred perspective. I’ve been listed alongside Michelle Obama and Angelina Jolie as one of “twelve women changing the world” by ELLE and my work has been used as a resource and case study at universities around the world. Like what you just read? Sign up above to receive new posts directly in your inbox.